Transgender: Transition Success Series

Question: Should i talk to my high school counsler about being transgender?

(Posted by: Hot b-baller on 2010-03-01 06:33:31)

I am bio female and my counselor has gay and trans gender poster type things on the outside of her window of her office and a rainbow candle on her desk im pretty sure she is okay with gays.I really want to start some where n my transition and maybe she could help me with finding gender therapist and other stuff. what do you think should I do this?

Posted by: pj on 2010-03-01, 09:42:10

Yes...all transphobia aside, she is advertising in no uncertain terms that she is available to you. the conversation must start somewhere and i doubt you'll find a safer place to start trusting. don't miss this opportunity based on transphobia, yours or anyone else's. much love and hope. pj

Posted by: Connor on 2010-03-01, 06:35:02

Yes you should talk to her.

Posted by: zellparis on 2010-03-01, 06:36:30

Don't do it, just think of the poor guys who have not had the chance to hit it yet, and you want to get rid of it

Posted by: BLACK_DAHLIA on 2010-03-01, 06:37:39

Nope. counselors and administrators hardly help any problems. Most of the time they're the cause of problems for LGBT youth.

Posted by: Paula Jenel on 2010-03-01, 07:50:32

Maybe. Will she respect your confidentiality? If not are you OK with the possibility she may inform your parents, or other school administrators. If you are not OK with that then no you should not at this time. If you feel she will respect your private information then yes by all means talk to her. drbecky.com/ therapists.html I see the Thumbs Down Brigade has arrived.

Posted by: Kathryn on 2010-03-01, 07:52:11

Yes school councilors are there to help you with your problems and she sounds like she may be knowledgeable in the subject if not here are some links Here is a list of gender therapists to see who can help you get started in working out the system DrBecky.com/ therapists.html A site to network Female to males ftminfo.net/ A surgeons site marcibowers.com/ grs/ ftmoutcomes.html pai.co.th/ services/ services.asp?services_id= 99 seattletransgender.org/ SRSFemale.aspx Help in transitioning ftmguide.org/ lauras-playground.com/ trans_support_groups.htm thetransitionalmale.com/ Binding Garment ftm.underworks.com/

Posted by: Erica - in the pipe, 5 x 5 on 2010-03-01, 10:43:36

I agree with Paula. Take advantage of this resource, but proceed with caution. You may want to first discuss your counselor's views on transgendered people before you say that YOU have a problem. You can always use the, "I'm asking for my friend " approach. If you are concerned about confidentiality, but still need to speak to someone, you can ask for a meeting with the school psychologist, although that may require your parent's consent. You could also consider talking to your family doctor, who has to keep your medical conversations private.

Posted by: gwillay on 2010-03-01, 15:09:25

You should talk to her. she will probably get your parents attention on it first but im sure after that she will help you get a good therapist and such.

Posted by: Shaun on 2010-03-02, 14:54:17

I was in the same boat as you in high school, and I'm really not much further now (I'm 22) because it took me a long time to ask someone for help. It's definitely not something to do alone, or without some awesome people in your life. I have some followup questions for you, such as what other resources are you in touch with, if any? and how comfortable are with your situation? I would also ask you to examine your family situation, that's always a tough one, but I believe that a school counselor is a good place to start, trust your gut, it's usually right. Your counselor also has to respect your confidentiality...by law, so don't let that deter you from talking to her. She may not, however, be able to put you in touch with some gender therapists, but may have some contacts to local GLBT youth centers or other youth development centers that can help you. I would also suggest taking advantage of the wide range of support offered on the internet, it's an amazing resource filled with a lot of amazing people. I always like to make myself available to people, so feel free to email me (anonymous_turtle@hotmail.com). Good Luck!