Transgender: Transition Success Series

Question: Oh no, a transgender issue?

(Posted by: Tokio on 2010-02-01 15:01:21)

I've recently come out as transgendered. Well, came out to myself anyway. I have friends that I've been discussing it with and I was telling them I might be. I've been having trouble with trying to find a new name. I don't like ordinary names like Joe, Fred, John, etc. I want something more out of the ordinary, but don't know where to look. Are there books that are full of names to look at? Websites? And, if anyone answering is transgendered, how did you know that your new name was the perfect one. Advice would be greatly appreciated :) Oh, I forgot to tell you that I was born female (because I see someone commented with female names.) Sorry!

Posted by: NoLa504 on 2010-02-01, 15:08:14

I think Beatrice or Gertrude would be nice.

Posted by: Lucy on 2010-02-01, 15:09:04

Personally, I'd choose the name of a character from a book/ film/ poem/ song I loved or really connected with. That way it really means something, you know?

Posted by: auty on 2010-02-01, 15:14:23

This is kind of empty, maybe. When I'm writing a book and need names I take the white pages and get it from there. There are tons of names in it, some ordinary some unusual.

Posted by: Jamie on 2010-02-01, 15:18:03

Run a search for names of the gender your looking for, for a guy I like Lucifer and for a girl I like Lilith.

Posted by: jessickaroze on 2010-02-01, 15:44:37

A lot of trans people choose a name somewhat similar to their birth name, or starting with the same letter. You could start there or if you want something totally different from the name your parents gave you then check like babynames.com Declan Skylar Fin (or Finnigan) umm...

Posted by: sinead on 2010-02-01, 15:49:45

My name is Irish, which I am,obviously I wanted a girls name which states my transgender so think of a girls name that you really like good luck

Posted by: Adela on 2010-02-01, 15:58:35

I would check name books... maybe baby name books... It's really interesting to see what each name means, which is more popular and more interesting. They give you the origin and meaning of each name. Did you know that your name means everything? From how people see you and how they interact with you? Just think someone who did not get along with robert when they were 10 might see another robert and completely stay away from them. Check out the latest baby name survey book... this book is based on surveys of what people see when they hear a certain name. It's really interesting. Also find the "Hot Numbers " book by Jean Simpson... it's pretty old but give you another perspective on what i'm talking about.

Posted by: Jill Edwards on 2010-02-01, 16:17:38

You don't choose your name. It chooses you. Sounds funny but its true. When you hear the right one it will stick. I went thru a bunch of them. they never fit. Too girly, too frilly, too mannish, Jillian was perfect and it never let me go. Jill is what my friends like for short and fits like I was born with it. And I was.

Posted by: patm1_us on 2010-02-01, 18:32:39

One person already said that when you find your name you will know it. She is right. But going through baby name books or sites will give your subconscious something to work on. Here are a couple of sites to get you started. Google "baby names " or similar phrases to turn up dozens more name sites. Good luck with your transition.

Posted by: Erica - Counting the Days on 2010-02-01, 19:36:52

I chose the closest female name to my Father's name, Richard. I also happened to like the name Erica, and I don't know anyone else in my life with this name.

Posted by: Paula Jenel on 2010-02-01, 19:48:42

I asked my Mom what she would have named me. I had a choice between Paula and Mary. You can do a search of the most popular baby names for the year you were born. That may give you some ideas. You will know when you find it.